Oregon Symphony presents Rachmaninoff’s Second Piano Concerto

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Incredible pleasure to hear Hamelin play Rachmaninoff’s Second Piano Concerto, an accomplished performance of dramatic and melodic music that swept me away. The entire concert was outstanding, especially under the sensitive conducting of James Feddeck. Oregon is fortunate to have such a talented symphony and to present such talented guests! See Program Notes. Photos © jillsnotebook.

Drawing figures so they appear to be in the distance

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Learning to draw people so they appear to be in the distance, hence the quarter for size reference. Will try painting them next. It’s kinda fun, because the idea is just to suggest the figure, not give details for something that should appear in the distance. It’s surprising how little is needed. Also, love my little pocket sketchbook.

A homage to those on the heroic journey of finding their direction or passion in life.

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I like the quote I heard on youtube today: “Passion is a form of self-care”. Especially like this idea in light of psychologists’ research that finds passion is more often developed over time from interests in which significant time investments are made, not some force that once identified suddenly endows one with unlimited motivation. So if passion is a form of self-care, then both self-care and passion are the byproducts of significant time investment in self-directed interests.

From my observations and reading, children need lots of opportunities and support to dabble, test out, and follow different interests over their childhood/early adulthood until the length of their self-directed time investments begins to shake out those interests that are of most value to them. This is how we find our direction or passion in life. Along with integrity, compassion, and life skills, this is what should be at the heart of parenting and education. Regrettably, it often is not.

Where children were thwarted in this significant developmental area for whatever reason, they must create and support these missed opportunities for themselves as adults, often now having to grapple with significant self-esteem issues and time and income limitations during the process. A daunting endeavor that requires courage and perseverance, and hopefully includes supportive friends/family.

Running the gauntlet of an impatient and judgemental society in order to find their direction/ passion and recover their authentic voices, such brave souls who keep trudging along, no matter how small the progress or frequent the setbacks, are heros and heroines in my book. As a society, we fail these wounded adults–these lost and discarded children now grown whom we fail a second time around when we do not recognize, nourish, champion, and support their healthy efforts at authenticity and self-direction. Instead, let us honor their noble journey, even if they are only first braving this process as late as in their 90’s! 🌿

Real Love is Brave

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Real love is no easy path – readiness is everything.” Hmm, instead, I agree that “bravery is everything” because none of us are ever really ready to be vulnerable. Instead, we brave the vulnerability of leaning in. True partnership is determined by a couple’s commitment to make each other’s emotional well-being as important as one’s own. And the ability to consistently do so requires the bravery to lean into ongoing personal growth and deepening one’s sensitivity to oneself and one’s partner.

The need for personal growth is accelerated in close relationships because conflict naturally arises in learning to fit into one another’s lives on a daily basis. These conflicts at times uncover one or both partner’s triggers and unhealed wounds (from experiences both during and prior to the relationship).

Each partner then faces the need to manage one’s triggers, to self-soothe, and to acknowledge one’s wounds to oneself. In a lasting partnership, couples further learn to create emotional safety for one another and brave the vulnerability of mutually sharing those wounds and supporting one another. Lasting, satisfying love is the honey of one another’s full acceptance and the deep bond of healing together over time. Successfully navigating this journey requires relying heavily on a healthy relationship toolbox. Because few of us have healthy tools, building that healthy toobox is crucial!

For more insight, read Al Turtle’s articles, Three Drawer Toobox and Where Do You Start? and John Gottman’s blog, Building a Sound Relationship House.

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